Comments on: Losing It http://anarchycreek.com/2010/03/03/losing-it/ Towards a Way of Excellence Sun, 05 Sep 2010 11:44:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Michael Sahota http://anarchycreek.com/2010/03/03/losing-it/comment-page-1/#comment-1068 Michael Sahota Mon, 29 Mar 2010 00:28:16 +0000 http://anarchycreek.com/?p=1211#comment-1068 Mike, you are a true hero for sharing this story ... I can totally relate. I too get passionate and heated about my work and loose my composure at times. IF you are interested in changing your behaviour around this, I'd suggest NLP Breakthrough Coaching. When I had some issues a few years back, this helped me a lot. Mike, you are a true hero for sharing this story … I can totally relate. I too get passionate and heated about my work and loose my composure at times. IF you are interested in changing your behaviour around this, I’d suggest NLP Breakthrough Coaching. When I had some issues a few years back, this helped me a lot.

]]> By: GeePawHill http://anarchycreek.com/2010/03/03/losing-it/comment-page-1/#comment-1032 GeePawHill Wed, 03 Mar 2010 22:11:07 +0000 http://anarchycreek.com/?p=1211#comment-1032 Matt... It's funny about being the offender and needing the relief. I think it's common to have some dumbassed blowup, then feel so bad about it that we can't give ourselves the room we obviously need! A double whammy. Matt… It’s funny about being the offender and needing the relief. I think it’s common to have some dumbassed blowup, then feel so bad about it that we can’t give ourselves the room we obviously need! A double whammy.

]]> By: GeePawHill http://anarchycreek.com/2010/03/03/losing-it/comment-page-1/#comment-1031 GeePawHill Wed, 03 Mar 2010 22:05:51 +0000 http://anarchycreek.com/?p=1211#comment-1031 Wolfgang... As I get older, I get better at both a) not getting mad in the first place, and b) knowing when it would be best to leave the room. Seriously, I can easily say, "Hey, you know what? I know we can figure this out in a bit, but right now I need to go walk around outside for a little bit." For me, it's a variation on basic meeting discipline, a topic coming up real soon. I have done this a few times, and no one has ever reacted negatively to it. I mean, after all, we *are* passionate-by-purpose, and that's going to mean sometimes we over-invest. Wolfgang… As I get older, I get better at both a) not getting mad in the first place, and b) knowing when it would be best to leave the room. Seriously, I can easily say, “Hey, you know what? I know we can figure this out in a bit, but right now I need to go walk around outside for a little bit.” For me, it’s a variation on basic meeting discipline, a topic coming up real soon.

I have done this a few times, and no one has ever reacted negatively to it. I mean, after all, we *are* passionate-by-purpose, and that’s going to mean sometimes we over-invest.

]]> By: GeePawHill http://anarchycreek.com/2010/03/03/losing-it/comment-page-1/#comment-1030 GeePawHill Wed, 03 Mar 2010 21:59:33 +0000 http://anarchycreek.com/?p=1211#comment-1030 Hey Steve... I remember those trips. I had a great time with you folks! Nice to see people from old teams. I reiterate, tho, I no longer challenge people to fisticuffs, or at least, I haven't since that first one. Hey Steve… I remember those trips. I had a great time with you folks! Nice to see people from old teams. I reiterate, tho, I no longer challenge people to fisticuffs, or at least, I haven’t since that first one.

]]> By: GeePawHill http://anarchycreek.com/2010/03/03/losing-it/comment-page-1/#comment-1029 GeePawHill Wed, 03 Mar 2010 21:39:49 +0000 http://anarchycreek.com/?p=1211#comment-1029 Mike, I think it gets better. I certainly am nowhere near as, errr, volatile as I once was. I see so many demoralized, despairing, down and out teams, that my heart mostly just goes out to folks. Mike, I think it gets better. I certainly am nowhere near as, errr, volatile as I once was. I see so many demoralized, despairing, down and out teams, that my heart mostly just goes out to folks.

]]> By: GeePawHill http://anarchycreek.com/2010/03/03/losing-it/comment-page-1/#comment-1028 GeePawHill Wed, 03 Mar 2010 21:27:35 +0000 http://anarchycreek.com/?p=1211#comment-1028 I totally agree about the relationship between coaching and kid-caring. And I'm not just trying to be witty about how bad some client team members are. Virginia has spent the last eighteen years teaching me how to work with kids -- we have nine grandkids -- and I still learn new stuff all the time --GeePaw I totally agree about the relationship between coaching and kid-caring. And I’m not just trying to be witty about how bad some client team members are. Virginia has spent the last eighteen years teaching me how to work with kids — we have nine grandkids — and I still learn new stuff all the time –GeePaw

]]> By: Matt http://anarchycreek.com/2010/03/03/losing-it/comment-page-1/#comment-1027 Matt Wed, 03 Mar 2010 17:59:23 +0000 http://anarchycreek.com/?p=1211#comment-1027 Man, it is good to know I am not alone. In fact, almost 1 hour ago I had a related moment. I've been asked to help in an area and this particular guy has been bogging things down and riding me. Details aside, I called to ask what's up and lost my composure. Buttons were pressed. Some damage was done. Your advice about support and chill time is pretty good. Weird to say but, as the "offender", I could use some. Blah. Man, it is good to know I am not alone. In fact, almost 1 hour ago I had a related moment. I’ve been asked to help in an area and this particular guy has been bogging things down and riding me. Details aside, I called to ask what’s up and lost my composure. Buttons were pressed. Some damage was done.

Your advice about support and chill time is pretty good. Weird to say but, as the “offender”, I could use some. Blah.

]]> By: Wolfgang Wiedenroth http://anarchycreek.com/2010/03/03/losing-it/comment-page-1/#comment-1026 Wolfgang Wiedenroth Wed, 03 Mar 2010 16:36:53 +0000 http://anarchycreek.com/?p=1211#comment-1026 we had a guy in our team acting, who was acting the same way. We called him the "meeting terrorist" and I was very close to smash his face through several walls! Didn't do it instead I just sat there and tried to come down. One additional word and I would had done it! we had a guy in our team acting, who was acting the same way. We called him the “meeting terrorist” and I was very close to smash his face through several walls! Didn’t do it instead I just sat there and tried to come down. One additional word and I would had done it!

]]> By: Steve Quinlan http://anarchycreek.com/2010/03/03/losing-it/comment-page-1/#comment-1025 Steve Quinlan Wed, 03 Mar 2010 13:50:42 +0000 http://anarchycreek.com/?p=1211#comment-1025 I wouldn't have believed this post had I not talked about parking lot therapy with you in 2001 in Iona Always take the fight to the ground I wouldn’t have believed this post had I not talked about parking lot therapy with you in 2001 in Iona

Always take the fight to the ground

]]> By: Mike Wilson http://anarchycreek.com/2010/03/03/losing-it/comment-page-1/#comment-1024 Mike Wilson Wed, 03 Mar 2010 13:33:18 +0000 http://anarchycreek.com/?p=1211#comment-1024 THIS is one of the big reasons I gave up coaching. ;) Damn fine post. THIS is one of the big reasons I gave up coaching. ;)

Damn fine post.

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